So, you can't decide if you should do a first look or not. Here is some food for thought on the subject.
The choice to have a first look or wait until you walk down the aisle is a very personal decision. Some photographers try to encourage a bride and groom to do a first look, because the bride and groom portrait session and wedding party portraits, don’t have be quite as rushed.
My belief is this is your day and you know yourselves and what you want to do. My job as your photographer is to capture the day regardless of your desire. To me, this decision is as much as a personal choice as choosing your wedding dress. I am not here to encourage or discourage. Read on for some pros and cons of each to help with your decision. I am your wedding partner and photographer that is what I am here for, I am here for you. I will work with you to develop a time line for either choice that allows me to capture all of the images of the day for you to relive the story, day after day, every time you look at your portraits.
First of all, what is a first look?
A first look is when a couple sees each other on their wedding day before the ceremony. It is a private time between the bride and groom, with no spectators, except for your photographer, who is there to remain quiet and capture the moment and raw emotion.
How is it done?
Your photographer will have a location picked out, away from everyone else. The groom is placed with his back toward where the bride will be. Your photographer will tell the bride where to be and instruct the groom to turn around when the bride is ready. This is the first moment he lays on you and your photographer is in the background capturing this quietly and candidly letting you have a few moments to yourself.
Afterward, while in the same location, we move into your bride and groom portrait session. Additionally, we slide the rest of bridal party in and get the portraits of the entire wedding party done at this time.
Things to Consider:
If you choose to do a first look, you will both need to be arrive at the venue earlier, and be dressed earlier with your flowers there.
If hair and makeup run late (not uncommon) this can put quite the time crunch on us for a first look and bride and groom portraits to follow.
No one else will see the first time your groom sets his eyes on you. Men can be emotional during this time, and cry and gasp and yes even make some jaw dropping faces! If you choose a first look, will your parents and family feel they are missing out on that moment?
You may need a hair and make up touch up after the portraits and before the ceremony. Especially if they are done outside.
We do everything in our power to keep your dress wrinkle free but if you are in portraits and just wearing your dress in general, it may get a bit wrinkled, depending on the fabric.
If you do your portraits before the ceremony, you won’t actually be married in your portraits. When you look at them later, will that bother you? You will not be wearing your wedding bands.
Some people are freaked out about having that first moment in front of everyone and need that private time. Others want everyone to see the glory of the first time you lay eyes on each other. Again, it is truly a personal decision.
Some feel that that excitement is gone if you do a first look, and the groom won’t feel as excited when he sees you come down the aisle. Yes, absolutely, the thoughts of that instant moment of what you look like has passed. They are however replaced with this is the moment you walk into become his wife. This is the biggie when it comes to deciding, and you really need to discuss your feelings.
A wedding day is fast, fast moving, and fast paced with all of the “firsts”. Your day takes place in front all of your guests as it unfolds. It is difficult to have a moment to yourselves. The first look gives you a moment in advance. If you choose to see each other coming down the aisle, I make it a point to work with you to find a few moments that we can carve out for you after.
Don’t be Influenced!
Most importantly don’t allow others to heavily influence you. While I agree it is probably something to be mindful of regarding your parents being there or absent for this, but this is your day, and you are in charge. Truly no one else knows how you feel. Just think of the different scenarios and go with your gut! I GOT YOU!
Your wedding day will be the biggest day of your life, second to only the day your children are born. Treasure these moments! The entire day that you have put so much into planning is gone in a matter of hours. At the end of the day, the food is gone, the dress is put away, the party is over. The images we create are the only thing that is left to treasure those memories for decades to come. Trust your day to be captured by a professional photographer who will also work with you in a professional manner to give you the lasting images and albums from your wedding that will be passed down for generations to come. Trust Petersen Photography, LLC to capture your day picture perfectly!
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